Personal SEL Reflection

Purpose: This tool is designed for self-reflection. It should not be used to evaluate performance. Principals, administrators, SEL team members, staff members, and other adults can use it to assess personal strengths, think about how to model those strengths when interacting with others, and plan strategies to promote growth across areas of social competence. If used in a group setting, individuals should first complete the reflection privately, then discuss general themes and examples of strengths and challenges with partners or in small groups. Individuals can return to this reflection throughout the year to revisit personal goals and mark progress.
- Read each statement and think of related specific situations, then rate yourself on the statement by marking the appropriate box (very difficult, difficult, easy, or very easy for you to do).
- When you finish, search for patterns of strengths and challenges. This information is for you, so answer accurately without judging responses as “good” or “not as good.”
- Review your responses and take action in light of what you learn. Suggested writing prompts and actions can be found after the reflection statements.
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Self-Awareness

Emotional Self- Awareness*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I can identify and name my emotions in the moment.
I use self-reflection to understand the factors that contribute to my emotions and how my emotions impact me.
I recognize when my emotions, thoughts, and biases influence my behavior and my reactions to people and situations, both negatively and positively.

IDENTITY AND SELF KNOWLEDGE*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I know and am realistic about my strengths and limitations.
I recognize and reflect on ways in which my identity is shaped by other people and my race, culture, experiences, and environments.
I recognize and reflect on ways in which my identity shapes my views, biases, and prejudices.

GROWTH MINDSET AND PURPOSE*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I believe I will continue to learn and develop skills to better support all young people to succeed.
I believe I can influence my own future and achieve my ambitions.
I can see how I have a valuable role in my work, my family, and my community.

Self-Management

MANAGING EMOTIONS*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I find ways to manage strong emotions in ways that don’t negatively impact others.
I can get through something even when I feel frustrated.
I can calm myself when I feel stressed or nervous.

MOTIVATION, AGENCY, AND GOAL-SETTING*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I hold high expectations that motivate me to seek self-improvement and encourage growth in those I lead.
I take action and impact change on issues that are important to me and the larger community.
I set measurable, challenging, and attainable goals and have clear steps in place to reach them.

PLANNING AND ORGANIZATION*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I modify my plans in the face of new information and realities.
When juggling multiple demands, I use strategies to regain focus and energy.
I balance my work life with personal renewal time.

Social Awareness

EMPATHY AND COMPASSION*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I can grasp a person’s perspective and feelings from verbal and nonverbal cues.
I pay attention to the feelings of others and recognize how my words and behavior impact them.
I show care for others when I see that they have been harmed in some way.

PERSPECTIVE TAKING*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I work to learn about the experiences of people of different races, ethnicities, or cultures.
I learn from those who have different opinions than me.
I ask others about their experience & perspective before offering my version of events.

UNDERSTANDING SOCIAL CONTEXT*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I understand the systemic, historical, and organizational forces that operate among people.
I appreciate and honor the cultural differences within my school community/workplace.
I recognize the strengths of young people and their families and view them as partners.

Relationship Skills

COMMUNICATION*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I stay focused when listening to others and carefully consider their meaning.
I can articulate ideas that are important to me in ways that engage others.
I can have honest conversations about race and racism with young people, their families, and other community members.

BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS AND TEAMWORK*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I connect meaningfully with young people, their families, colleagues, and community members who are from a different race, culture, or socioeconomic background than I am.
I get to know the people around me.
I work well with others and generate a collegial atmosphere.
I make sure everyone has had an opportunity to share their ideas.

CONFLICT MANAGEMENT*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
When I am upset with someone, I talk to them about how I feel and listen to their perspective.
I openly admit my mistakes to myself and others and work to make things right.
I can work through my discomfort when dealing with conflict, listen to feelings from all parties, and help them understand different perspectives.

Responsible Decision-Making

PROBLEM ANALYSIS*

*such as staff and colleagues, young people, their families, and other community members -- especially those who are historically underrepresented in decision-making

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I gather relevant information to explore the root causes of problems I see.
I recognize the need to continually grow, to examine the status quo, and to encourage new thinking in my school community.
I involve others who are impacted* to explore a problem collaboratively before choosing a solution or launching a new project.

IDENTIFYING SOLUTIONS*

*such as staff and colleagues, young people, their families, and other community members -- especially those who are historically underrepresented in decision-making

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I involve others who are impacted* to generate multiple solutions and predict the outcome of each solution to key problems.
I find practical and respectful ways to overcome difficulty, even when it comes to making decisions that may not be popular.
I consider how my choices will be viewed through the lens of the young people I serve and the community around them.

REFLECTION ON IMPACT*

	Very Difficult	Difficult	Easy	Very Easy
I take time for self-reflection & group reflection on progress toward goals & the process used.
I consider how my personal and professional decisions impact the lives of others.
I help to make my personal and professional community a better place.

Self-Awareness

Self-Management

Social Awareness

Relationship Skills

Responsible Decision-Making